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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]and I don't know what to do about it.  It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters.  I am miserable[/quote]

How long have you been there? It's possible that connections will grow over time.

I have nothing in common with the parents at the school my child goes to and [b]yet everyone is cordial and welcoming[/b] and I am definitely not miserable.

Is it a matter of you hoped to get your own friends when you enrolled your child? Say more so we understand why you are miserable, sounds like you are having a hard time with the unmet expectations.[/quote]I hav

Different poster here.

The thing is that at some schools, many people are NOT cordial or welcoming.  That is the problem.  I am NOT looking for my new BFFs or even friends but it would be nice if people who I chatted with 2 or 3 times at previous events would even acknowledge me when passing at the next event  It's just weird.  I didn't fall off the turnip truck yesterday and have been in many DC circles of busy people who still manage to engage politely with others.  So when SAHMs of high schoolers at our school look through me (and others) I know it's not because they're "too busy"; rather that they're just being obnoxious.  
Vent over: I have met some lovely people and have a dozen or so I can chat with at events and a few that I will probably keep in touch with long after my kids graduate.  But the rest I could really do without. [/quote]

Not a private school situation. It's the mean high school kids not changing and being mean adults. Why do you want to be friends with people who make you feel bad? You have a few people who you say are lovely so put your energy there makes more sense.[/quote]

Good question.  I don't want to be friends with them.  But being ignored and/or looked through by a large sector of a community that you are part of is grates over time and is quietly stressful/annoying. I don't think anyone likes that feeling. I'm 47 years old with teenagers and a high level job.  I probably shouldn't give a crap but I don't like it.  And this school is the only place I've felt this way since I was literally a teenager myself.  I've never been treated this way in a professional setting, another DC social setting, etc.  
I know I'm not alone because those I am friends with at the school (also highly functional professionals) are always quick to ask (prior to school-wide events) "are you going?" "will you be there?"  Every time.  It's like we cling to each others for a few friendly faces amongst a decidedly unfriendly crowd.   
So why do we put up with this BS?  Well the education is excellent, our kids are high schoolers who are reasonably happy (hard to move them) and it's fundamentally not about us.

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