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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He'll be 18 in 11 months, but he's already out of school, working, saving money, and his 5yr plan is to be independently wealthy. He will decide whether or not college is the route he wants to take to achieve his goal. Hustlers do not need college in order to be successful. It's all about mindset. ADHD is a useful tool to have if you want to reach the top. Harness that power. It's definitely no handicap. I taught my son to harness his power to make it work for him. He is already off and running, and I just sit back and watch and grin.  :D [/quote]

NP here and to this PP, can you explain what you mean about "it's no handicap" and "harnessing his power" ?  My DD was undiagnosed ADHD (mostly because she held it together for school and did well) until a therapist suggested a re-eval, and she came up classic ADHD.  She is really happy bc she felt misunderstood all these years. The issue was she was not diagnosed until summer before college so I didn't get a handle on it, and I'd like to help her see it not just as "finally, I'm understood, and it explains a lot, and it's a bit of an excuse to underperform now"

To OP, my kid is starting her second year at UChicago next Tuesday, and she did okay her first year, not stellar but they've got that Core curriculum that beats up on lots of kids.  I was terrified (literally having anxiety attacks) that she wouldn't fledge, which led to her diagnosis and then a ?life coach who specializes in ADHD.  That person taught her coping stategies that tend to come naturally to most other people.  Like...you don't keep your whole calendar in your head and then try and remember it and inevitably fail; instead you put it on your events on your iphone.  She still meets with that coach over zoom.  It's not covered by medical insurance, but it is the best investment we could have made.

Along those lines, my DD has a "team" of adults now. A therapist. A psychiatrist. This ADHD coach. And me.  But before, it was only me, and it was both killing me and ineffective for her.  She now goes to her team for many things instead of me, and it's been great for me personally, and great for our relationship. (btw I wish I could say DH was part of the team but he just messes up; they are too alike--and my DD can see that, but DH cannot.  DH is much less self-aware than his therapized DD)

Okay OP, hope this helps, and PP, hope you can elaborate of harnessing the power of ADHD![/quote]

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