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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. I wish I had a good relationship with my mom. MY mom. Not some other lady who's old enough to be my mom.[/quote]

Op here. YES!! SO TRUE! I hate when people say I’m yearning for the mom I never had. It’s more like I’m yearning for the best parts of my mom.[/quote]

I'm a very practical sort. So I accepted that I couldn't be close with her, and I try to be better to the children in my life than she was to me. When my niece called me hysterically this weekend about problems she was having that I've never dealt with I did not say to her (as my mom said to me) "Well, I don't know what to tell you; I never would have gotten in that situation." That just left me feeling alone AND shamed for whatever pickle I'd gotten myself into. I said things like "That sounds horrible, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. This isn't the way you wanted this to go at ALL! But I'm proud of you for trying because a year ago you weren't at this point, so this counts as progress." [/quote]

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