Reply to Etiquette for ex-in-law relationship

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Etiquette for ex-in-law relationship"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]My brother and his wife decided to separate about 6 months ago and are in the process of divorce. I’ve always been friendly with soon to be ex-SIL, but never particularly close. I can’t think of a single time we’ve hung out together outside of a family event. So when my brother told me about the split, and shared that it’s due to terrible behavior on her part (yes, I know she’s got a side to the story that I’m not hearing), I haven’t reached out in any way shape or form. She’s stopped attending family gatherings, understandably.

They have a young elementary age daughter, around the same age has my kids. Niece has an upcoming school holiday where my brother has custody, but has a work conflict. I have agreed to have niece stay with us over her school break (it’ll essentially be a long weekend).

My question… if I were taking my niece in the past, I’d have sent periodic text updates with pictures over the course of the weekend to her parents. Now with the divorce, and me managing my relationship with niece through my brother, do I only send updates to him? Feels weird to initiate contact with ex-SIL, but if I were her, and my child was not with me, I’d want updates. Should I reach out one on one to ex-SIL to coordinate my niece’s stay at all, or continue with contact only through my brother?

I have no love lost for ex-SIL based on how she’s treated my brother, but as a mom, it feels weird not to have contact with her while I’m caring for her child for an extended period. WWYD?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics