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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every person is so different. But turning to this board, you are most likely to get negative stories, because people on this forum generally have a gripes. Are you worried about your DH becoming less functional, or are you worried about yourself losing your drive? On average it seems like women’s drive decreases during menopause but it’s complex and I know several women who are the opposite of that and who have really great sex lives in their 50s. I wouldn’t worry about how other people are doing, if you have a good solid sex life now, then just keep it up.

From hearing other women’s stories, I think the main driver of women’s decreased sex drive is their decreased interest in their husbands and their insecurity about their bodies. Versus a purely physiological age related thing.[/quote]

Thanks for this, very reasonable respond. I am not sure if I have any specific worries, just wondering if I should. I guess I feel like I've lucked out so far and hope we'll continue to be a good match for one another.[/quote]

NP. I agree with the PP to whom you're responding, who noted that here, you will get mostly negatives and gripes. And I'd add, OP: You feel like you've "lucked out" so far, but please realize, the continuance of a good sex life is not about luck at all. It's about effort and open discussion. You've had great sex organically so far and that's wonderful but don't get balky about the idea that you and he may need to do more talking as time goes on, checking in with each other. If frequency wanes more than you want, talk about that and make a conscious effort to schedule sex --yes, I know, not the hottest thought, but it can actually build anticpation if you both let it. And so on. Don't take it for granted -- it sounds like you don't, which is good -- but also don't attribute to "luck" what you can keep going with thought and effort. [i]Signed, married 30 years, long dry spells, now incredibly reinvigorated in our late 50's and more frequent thatn in our 30s[/i][/quote]

New poster here. This is such a great response! And very encouraging and inspiring. Thanks for this.[/quote]

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