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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend is a great guy and we see each other 2-3x/week. We're both 40's and have been together 9 months. He was really good about planning dates and making me feel special in the beginning and now it seems that I'm the one doing all the planning and paying for the tickets for whatever we do. If I don't do it, we pretty much sit on the couch and watch a movie every time.

I don't need to go out all the time, but I think one night per week is reasonable. How do I gently get him to start putting in more effort? I'm starting to feel taken for granted.[/quote]

[b]We just had a post here from a woman dating a guy in his 40s, with whom she's been together for 9 months, and whom she describes as a "great guy."[/b]

Is this you back again, OP? The other thread was about how he openly discusses other women's looks and bodies in front of the OP. If that's you, now you're back worrying about how he USED to make "feel special" and now doesn't--? What about the fact he talks about other women's curves?

If this isn't the same OP as that other thread, your post sounds an awful lot like hers. More than uncannily like hers.

If you're the same OP, I'm not bashing you, I'm asking genuinely and with concern: Why are you trickling out issues separately? Sounds like he's over the initial fun-date phase and either takes you for granted now or is fine with your taking over all planning. But you remain with him after the way he talks about women. What gives, OP? Why so desperate to stay with him? What actually IS "great" about him? [/quote]

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