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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So what is it you’re looking for here? What do you want to see happen? [/quote]

OP here. I guess I wanted to find out if this sort of thing happens in other families too.

14 years after my father's death I still struggle with the loss of both my parents. 51 and 64 years old. Luckily for them, they were able to enjoy life to the full from when they married in the 1960s until my mother was diagnosed with cancer.

I just feel that relatives could have been a bit more understanding. I know that one or two did help my father for a while, but others did nothing, not even a friendly phone call to ask how he was doing They all knew I live 300 miles away. It was hard.

Actually the person who offered him practical support the most was a neighbor.[/quote]

It totally does happen in other families.  Caregiving for an ailing, difficult, grieving widower is hard, and people just aren't that willing to do it.  They didn't ask after him because that opens the door to doing thngs for hm.  You'll probably feel the same if you grow old and a younger relative wants you to do this kind of thing.

I think you need to own your choice to move so far away.  It's not their job to compensate for what you've chosen not to do.  It sounds like you lost your parents far too young and that's the real heartache here.[/quote]

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