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[quote=Anonymous]OP again. She probably is being somewhat passive. She isn't the type to invite others to do things together because she's quiet and doesn't easily trust people. As I mentioned in the OP, this is what we feared would happen at a school like that. But the choice has been made and now she's there without the social support scaffolding that she needs. I've seen the parent Facebook page for the school and there are tons of other kids without anyone to hang out with, so it does seem like the school isn't structuring things in ways that make it easier for shy kids to find their footing. The other issue is that it's a state school, so a bunch of kids from her high school are there. She wasn't popular in HS and only had two friends she hung out with, so now the same cycle is being repeated in college with some of those same kids from her hometown. I feel so bad for her but don't know how to help. We suggested joining various clubs but the reality is that most of those meet just once a month. How do kids make friends if they aren't hanging out with people from the dorm for activities? I find it bizarre that the dorm or the house within a dorm isn't going to the football games together on the weekends. That's how we did it at my college. We also had intramurals based on houses. The people you lived with were the same ones you eat with. At her school, they eat at these big food halls that are not connected to your dorm. It's kind of like eating at a mall food courtyard. Now I wish she'd lived in one of those Living and Learning Communities. [/quote]

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