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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not sure PP's are right that it's elevated expectations and not lack of structure, but it's also not clear that they are wrong. OP, I think there are more questions you need to ask--from your son and the teachers. Why is he finding it hard to do x? Not do y? What strategies does he and/or the teachers think would help? If the answers involve structure the school doesn't have, or set-ups in the new school that differ in relevant ways from your old school, then it may well be that your son learns and behaves better in a different environment. Maybe your son says he doesn't take his teacher seriously in some way. If that's true, is it something about that particular teacher, or is more broadly about the way teachers tend to teach or are trained to teach at this school? Is your son distracted and/or annoyed by others in the class? If so, is that because of particular individuals or because of how the classroom is run? Some kids do better working quietly in desks and do poorly if students are always allowed to move about, lounge, etc. Others thrive in those environments. Too many questions to know what the right answer is. You might have already asked some of this, but from your post, I had lots of questions.

For what it's worth, our son doesn't do as well, behaviorally, in unstructured environments. He does fine substantively, but he's one of those kids who benefits a lot from quiet, orderly, and structured days in many ways. He also benefits from kind but firm teaching. He can function in looser environments, and in fact in some extra-curricular settings, does function in those environments. For school, however, his best self comes out with more structure, for some of the reasons I mentioned with my questions above. Your son might be like that, or he might just be having trouble adjusting to more expectations in a new school.

good luck! [/quote]

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