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[quote=Anonymous]18 yo DS decided to go to CC and transfer to his school of choice next year, since he was rejected as a first year applicant.  He is living with us and driving himself to classes at the community college.  Supposedly this is his last year at home. We've agreed that we will treat him as if he is adult and took away most of the restrictions he had in the past years.  He is our oldest and I found myself struggling to let go of control.  I wonder if anyone is/was in the similar situation with DC living at home. Or just WWYD?

1) Staying up all night playing video games with friends or socializing (online) and going to bed in the morning.  Then after two hours of sleep he goes to classes.  Comes back and sleeps for the rest of the day.  Wakes up in the evening and plays all night.  I understand he could be doing that same thing living in the dorm.  But it's really hard watch and not to say anything.

2) Room is a terrible mess.  It no longer seems appropriate to nag him but it's just plain awful with trash and clothing on the floor.  I made a rule about "no food" for sanitary purposes, but it's still terrible.  Really hard to ignore.

3) Skipping classes.  After being up all night he felt too tired and skipped full day of classes.  Again, he could have done it without me knowing if he lived away. But I do know and it drives me nuts. When I expressed my concern he said that he has everything under control and I should worry.

4) Laundry.  Original plan is for him to do it, but seeing how it just accumulates all over his room I am really tempted to do his laundry for another year.  Also, another reason for skipping school was that he didn't have any clean shirts.  So he spent all day at home, but he still did not do his laundry. (sigh)

5) Chores.  Would you still make your grown child do chores if he lived with you while in college?  It was always a source of constant nagging from me, so I am not sure I want to continue doing that.  His friends are having fun living on campus while his mom is demanding he walks the dog and takes the trash out.

Please share your experiences or any advice.  This has only been two weeks, but our relationship is already suffering.  I understand now why it's so much better when they are in college and we parents don't see all this.

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