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[quote=Anonymous]My DH and I have been married for 13 years, have one DD 8.  At various times I’ve contemplated separation.  Nothing is terrible but our sex life has gone from barely ok to basically nonexistent over the past few years, he’s pretty negative, I do basically all my socializing solo because he doesn’t care about social contact, he is messy, accumulates lots of clutter.  But during Covid, he was the primary caretaker and teacher.  With our daughter, he is positive and encouraging (which is wonderful but occasionally grating since I see little of that side), and they are very close.  I have been unwilling to separate because I fear the the effect on her and honestly fear that she will blame me and want to live with her dad.  To make it more complicated, I have developed a huge crush on a friend but I’m realistic that this may be more of my subconscious trying to give me an exit excuse than about real connection.  Nonetheless I am seriously contemplating trying to pursue an affair (said friend knows I’m married so it will probably result in an awkward rejection).   I know I need to do something but I’m paralyzed.  Separate, go to marriage therapy and try to repair, talk to DH about opening our marriage (I don’t think he would), try with my crush…
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