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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband will sort of go through the motions, and do something very specific if I ask him, but he never makes an effort to attend IEP meetings, meetings with special ed teachers.  I take my child to therapy, too.

His emotions in general tend to be muted, and he doesn't seem perplexed by much of anything (for example, he was rarely concerned during the pandemic, when most people were at least a bit anxious).  I think he could be slightly on the spectrum.

The *only* time he seems to have made an effort to participate in my kids' activities is when they were enrolled in basketball.  Then, apparently, he hustled to get to practices and the like.

He tends to be on the unambitious side, but he lets me do everything.  I'm at my wits' end.  I feel so unsupported and overtaxed.  I'm a type A person, and our combination is often a decent one (he sometimes levels me out), but oh my goodness, I don't feel like I have a partner in this.

I would be grateful for advice and words of wisdom.  TIA.

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After we started having problems with the school system, I told my dh he had to be involved. It was too stressful to manage alone. It made a big difference for me as he became more involved and more knowledgeable. I don't agree with the posters saying men accept their children's differences more easily. After helping other parents and working with a very busy advocate, most dad's seem to want to bury their heads in the sand and not deal. What also happens often is that when they do start going to meetings, all the school staff treat them with more respect than the mom. 
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