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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not sure if "disclose" is the right term ... If there's an item that is expensive but doesnt impact our budget, we'll mention it, usually just cause we're excited about the purchase and want to share. Also, we both get text alerts when our credit card is charged for anything (we set it up after a few instances of fraud that weren't immediately caught by the cc company), so it's partly just a heads up that the charge is legit in case Visa calls for confirmation.

Really big purchases, like a new car, we discuss ahead of time.

-- roughly equal incomes, but DH does most of the finance tracking. We both have full access to all accounts, so there's really no hiding anything anyway. [/quote]

This is us too, except I’m a SAHM. Neither of us are big spenders, so something like a Rolex we would definitely discuss ahead of time. And I would generally tell him if I’m going shopping just in the manner of discussing general day to day stuff. ‘Tuesday I’m going to Nordstrom to look for a dress for Jen’s wedding, and then I have to take the car for the inspection etc’ and that night I’m sure he would ask if I found anything and if there were any issues with the car etc. We get alerts for purchases, so it’s not like I could (or would) hide something.

I think it also depends HOW high earning. If he makes a ton of money and feels like he wants a new watch, then who cares. If it’s pushes back your timeline for buying a new car or vacation or whatever, then he probably should have brought it up. I’m a SAHM so I’m not bringing in any money, but my husband trusts that when I buy a new bag or outfit or whatever, that it’s something I need and he would never question it. But I hate shopping and hardly ever buy things for myself, so maybe it would be a different story if I was spending 100s on myself every day.

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