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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If sister is bi polar, I'd take the story with a grain of salt. My bi polar niece made similar accusations during a depressive cycle. It was like she dropped a bomb on the entire family. Despite the efforts and support of several family members, she wouldn't provide important details, nor would she agree to therapy, either solo or with family. This was distressing because we had young children and were looking at each other and everyone else as potential molestors. I even raked through my memories to see if I could've done something to het, which is crazy because I don't harm children. She has retracted and restated the accusation a few times, but never tells us who did it, when it happened, nothing. None of us have any idea if she was or wasn't molested and there is nothing we can do to help her.[/quote]

PP makes a very good point above, OP. The nature of your sister's mental illness could be a factor here. I am NOT saying "don't believe her." But I am saying, if her illness includes any delusional aspects, that may have to be something you take into account as PP notes. Is your sister getting any treatment, by the way? How is her current state? If she told you this bombshell while she's in successful treatment and not prone to delusional statements, that's a factor too.

If you have kids, OP, it's also worth noting you should have your parental radar turned up high and not let your kids be around your brother alone, or where he could get them alone. Unfortunately, you have to make an asssumption that if your sister is telling the full truth, your brother could be a real risk to your own children. If your kids are older, were they around him as younger kids? [/quote]

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