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[quote=Anonymous]Yup, that's what happened to my former colleague. As my mom told me the story I got so so so so angry but in the end everything ended up well. This is a very dear person to me, when we worked together she was always so nice, sweet and going out of her way to help everybody around her. She was depressed we could tell but it never really affected her job.

My mom became friends with her mom just a few months ago when my parents returned to my home town after retirement. Today, on the phone with my mom she comes to tell me that my colleague's mom told her this story this morning when my mom went to visit them.

To make a long story short, my colleague got an anonymous call saying she was adopted. She reached for her older brother immediately who told her to come over to his home that night. He called their middle brother and they all met that night for dinner and they told her the truth. There was a lot of crying. The brothers called the mom next day and told her they told little sis the truth. Mom called everybody for dinner next day at her home and they all talked for hours. My colleague confessed to them that she always thought there was something going on but was never brave enough to ask anything. She didn't want to hurt anybody's feelings and just kept those thoughts for herself. After a week or so my colleague asked her mom how she would feel if she went to meet the biological mother and her mom said she didn't mind at all, she'd even go with her if she wanted. They contacted the couple that gave her away and the couple invited them to spend a day over the very next weekend. The bio family threw a BBQ and got to meet their little sister. She is the youngest of 5 boys and 1 girl. Mom gave her away because she could not care for her. She starved during the pregnancy and the baby was extremely small.

My colleague, since then has changed so much according to her adoptive mom. She's become more and more loving, the depression disappeared and she grew even closer to her siblings. I'm so happy to hear that this story ended in such a beautiful way.

I can't help myself but think what kind of person would do such a thing to someone as in pick up the phone and reveal such an important family secret? I'm glad it turned out well but I still have this pit in my stomach... My cousin committed suicide exactly 2 years ago today and I guess this story hit me so hard because I suspect that he found out he was adopted and could not deal with it. The entire family knew but nobody ever told him. He was such an intelligent guy, 3 masters, 2 PhDs, a very stable job in technology, one of the most respected professionals in his field and still he was never content. I miss him so much. He was 10 years older than me and I must say that he's responsible for a big part of the accomplishments I've had in my life. He was always the free spirit in the family, the smart guy giving the younger cousins tips on getting what they wanted and reaching their potential. I miss him so much!

Sorry for the long post but I just had to vent.[/quote]

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