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[quote=Anonymous]Focus on the future. If you don't have more kids, in 11 years or so, you'll be an empty nester at a pretty young age. How is your marriage? Do you have friends? Do you have a career you like? Any hobbies?

Maybe you can retire on the younger side and travel. That sounds wonderful to me. There are so many places I want to go.

Maybe you'd rather just be around for your adult kids and able to see them often--travel to wherever they wind up living, help them out if/when they have kids of their own and be a youngish grandparent.

If you have a baby now, you'll probably not be able to retire until later, you'll be extending the time you will be raising kids at least another 8 years beyond what you currently have. I mean, I love being a parent, I love raising my kids. I'm not in any hurry for my kids to grow up. But I also look forward to those empty nester-retired-grandparent years to come. I think if you have a 4th child now, you'll retire later, be an empty nester later, not be able to travel as much in your retirement years (because you'll be older and broker, with more adult kids to potentially visit and/or support even) and generally not have as much freedom to enjoy that era of your life.

Plus, do you really want to bring kids into the world right now? I mean...I love my kids immensely and am so glad they're here and would always choose to have them again if I had to start over. BUT, it's really not a great time to have kids in many ways...our society is crumbling, our planet is dying, things are always just getting worse--politically, socially, environmentally, economically...[/quote]

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