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[quote=Anonymous]The problem isn’t the in-laws. The problem is your wife’s discomfort with saying no and meaning it. They want her to participate in the happy-family charade. She gets to choose: 1) Go along with the charade and spend her free time with the steps and get minimum guilt trips 2) Set clear boundaries about what she wants and deal with the fallout. 3) Do a slow fade from that whole half of the family, which lessens but does not extinguish the fallout. In my case, I have done the slow fade from both of my divorced parents. They both seem to prefer their replacement families with kids who they never had to actually parent and who therefore don’t have any baggage and are happy to just keep it all light and breezy and never ask for or expect any support from my parents. I see my mom a few times a year when she visits from the west coast to see my brother’s kids. I see my dad 1-2 times a year even though he is local. [/quote]
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