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[quote=Anonymous]DD is 2 weeks into HS and is, for the first time, facing a bad teammate/mean girl situation and I am at complete loss what advice to give her. DD has played competitive/travel sports since age 8 and has never had any sort of teammate conflict.  She has previously played on two different teams with this girl, and while they weren't really friendly, there was no actual conflict. They are now likely to be on at least 2 teams a year together for the next couple of years and I want to see if I can help DD head this off before it robs DD of her enjoyment of the sports she loves.

It's manifesting itself in snide remarks/chirping DD in front of the team. Teammate is a loud alpha/ringleader/drama queen type who has a bunch of "followers" who are mostly good kids, but are 15, so they go along with her act. DD is a head-down, quiet, grinder-type who tries to be a leader more by example.  I suspect it will only get worse this winter when they get into basketball which is DD's first love and teammate's primary sport (neither are good enough yet to make varsity).

Just to be clear, I am convinced this is not a "he said/she said" situation.  I know teammate (I have coached her previously) and she just isn't a particularly good kid/teammate -- selfish, not very coachable, pouts when things don't go her way, quits on plays, blames teammates, etc. Not sure why teammate has turned on DD (if I had to guess, it would be an occasion where DD received league recognition and teammate didn't) other than that DD is an easy target b/c she is somewhat shy.

This could probably be cross-posted in the parenting forum, but it really is a sports-specific issue I'm trying to solve for.[/quote]

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