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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another poster chiming in to say this sounds exactly like mania (which is a trademark of bipolar). Does he seem to experience periodic depressive crashes as well?

I know this isn’t welcome news but with bipolar, the longer it goes untreated the worse it gets. And assuming you’re saying the mania (again, that’s what it is: talking fast, barely sleeping, grandiosity…that’s textbook mania. Please make sure you’re watching your finances closely as well, seriously. Manic people do stuuupid things with money) has ramped up lately, from my personal experience (with a family member) it’s just going to continue getting worse if untreated. But the good news is there ARE meds that exist and can help. I understand you’re saying he won’t get help - is that true even if you wait until he’s not in a heated state and give him an ultimatum?[/quote]

New poster. OP, I know you said you weren't looking for advice, but I'm begging you to heed ALL the posts saying he's clearly ill, it's very possibly bipolar (which is not the same as a psychotic break, and your descripiton of him is textbook bipolar mania stuff), and you need to make treatment a condition of your staying. YOU ARE NOT ALONE even though you feel you can't turn to family for help. Start with the National Allance on Mental Illness and look up their local support groups for family of mentally ill people. I know, you're busy with kids and a husband who is totally unpredictable, but please reach out and ask NAMI for how to get started navigating this. Talk to people who have been exactly where you are now -- feeling resigned and trapped by the spouse's behaviors, and feeling there's nothing you can do to force him to get any treatment. Ask those who have been there.
https://www.nami.org/personal-stories/living-with-someone-with-bipolar-disorder 
Look at that link for links to support and resources. Today. Please. Do not subject your kids to this -- or your husband, either, because he is suffering and cannot see it.

Re: the post above, this is spot on. You must go immediately and check finances, bank records and if your DH has a credit card or cards -- you need to get hold of those records. In manic phases, some people spend wildly. And do things you would never expect them to do. My close friend--a paragon of goodness before her bipolar disorder really took off-- was fired from a high-profile job when the employer discovered she had used her company credit card to buy things, I suspect thousands of dollars of things, that were not business-related. It still amazes me that the employer did not prosecute her. Her closet was bursting with clothes and other items she had never worn or used, tags still on, and her personal credit card was deep under water as well. She spent madly when manic and it permanently wrecked her employment history and her finances. You need at least to find out if reckless spending is one of your DH's manic reactions--if not, great, but keep monitoring credit and finances. He could ruin your own finances too. (My friend later got the treatment she needed, after YEARS of being misdiagnosed as clinically depressed when she actually had bipolar, BTW.)

Hoping you do reach out and are not resigned to living like this, OP. Your kids, and you and your DH, deserve more. It is not possible to get help to someone who utterly refuses it but with advice from support groups you might find ways to speak to him when he's not manic, to reach him and get him to see he needs serious treatment. Don't go it alone, though.[/quote]

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