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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like you got caught in family/regional differences. I’m the same. My husband’s family (Asian background *and* from the northeast) only give money. My family (wasps from the south) only give items, never money. And like you, always sends presents ahead. My grandmother would rise from my grave and haunt me if I gave someone a check for their wedding or took a present to the wedding. 😄

I generally just let my husband be in charge of presents for his family. He knows the expectations and will consult with his mother to make sure we give the right amount. And since he’s the one doing it, my grandmother won’t haunt me!

No big deal, just reply to say you sent the present (and specify what it was) to the house before the wedding.

(But wow, I feel like it was kind of rude of the MOB to inquire)[/quote]

It may have come off as rude because some people from NJ (or my NJ MIL from Philly) can be very curt and direct. It would have actually been rude if the bride called herself. Many people put cash in the cards, so MOB was just checking to make sure it was not actually lost or stolen. How mortified would the bride be to find out later you put hundreds of dollars in a card and she never wrote a a thank you note. [/quote]

It was in fact rude.  Gifts are technically optional.[/quote]

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