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[quote=Anonymous]Ok, so I’ve started a new job for almost 3 months now. It’s a good job and it ticks many boxes, so no complaints regarding it. However, I have been experiencing so many issues in my personal life for the past few years. It made me highly insecure and depressed. I was unemployed for a few years, so this job is a major step and progress for me.

My job mainly consists of my boss, senior supervisor and around 10 coworkers. I’m on good terms with everyone and have a cordial relationship with them. I often don’t get much face to face interaction with my boss because he’s always busy, so I see and interact with my senior supervisor more. I regularly email my boss though and he does to regarding coordinating the tasks. Yesterday my boss emailed me and said he wants to have a meeting with me and I agreed.

I got into his office and he asked me how I’m coping with the workload and if I find anything too much, I should let him know. He then told me that he doesn’t get to see me interacting with my coworkers and I’m always kept to myself in another room. He said that he doesn’t see me working as part of a team and asked if I already had another job lined up. I told him that’s not the case. He then told me that he’s asked a few of my other coworkers what they think about me and they all said I’m ‘highly anxious.’ I admit that it’s very true. My personal problems that I’ve been struggling for years have managed to spill into my work life and others have seemed to witness that.

He then told me that this was said by more than person, so they can’t be lying. I told him that I don’t disagree with that they’ve said. I then told him “I don’t want to talk about it.” He spoke for another few minutes about managing my anxiety and I left. I actually got teary driving on my way home.

I don’t know what to do. I can’t get myself to hang around my coworkers due to my anxiousness and difficult past. He told me that he wants to see me “interacting more” with others and it’s so hard for me. At the same time, does my boss think I have issues? If everyone describes me as “highly anxious,” does that reflect badly on me? Is it ok if I tell my boss that I can’t interact with my coworkers and I want some space and to be left alone? Please don’t advice me to seek therapy, because I’m in the process of doing that. I just want to know how can I handle this situation.[/quote]

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