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[quote=Anonymous]Np here with an ADHD son, 13 yo, who plays on a moderately competitive travel team. I see that my own view is the opposite of what others advise.  I would be inclined to suggest mentioning it to the coach. 
My DH actually co-coached the team last year so we didn’t have this dilemma. In previous years, we didn’t disclose his ADHD diagnosis because he hadn’t been playing at the competitive travel level and he was performing better than many of his teammates when playing. 
I can see that there seems to be a lot more at stake for you than there was for my DS at 11,  because he is already on that travel team and he is still at the point where you are actively helping/managing his adhd. I do commend you for being supportive parents. 
The reason I suggest possibly telling the coach is that his behavior in practices and “pep talks” might be distracted (or may appear that way) and the coach may interpret this as disrespectful. I know that my kid can be this way. If a coach does not understand ADHD being at play, he might get impatient with your kid for behavior that is not intentional.
The coach may actually “get” ADHD and be totally understanding of your DS’s challenges, and since he was good enough to make the team, the coach could also appreciate that you as parents are keeping on top of your DS’s adhd. My DH, as coach, would have been that way if you told him…he’d say, I get it, I see you are managing it actively to the extent you can, that’s great, etc, and would reach out to you if he thought that your son’s behaviors ever got to the point where something had/could be done. But if he saw that there was a kid manifesting ADHD-type behaviors snd the parents were not even trying to help their kid to address them, my DH coach would have been frustrated and unsure about how the season would go. 
But your son’s coach may not be sympathetic to ADHD, in terms of taking it seriously, etc., so for that reason I’d approach it a little more specifically, such as, 
Coach, one thing [DS] has been working on is showing more focus during pre-game talks. He is, by nature, a little distractable sometimes so he’s really trying to make more effort at listening in depth so that the he doesn’t think come across as showing disregard for the speaker. If he is not behaving in ways that live up to your expectations, please feel free to let us know so we can reinforce your messages at home.” Frame it as wanting to ensure a parent-coach partnership/dialogue.[/quote]

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