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[quote=Anonymous]Op here...

Thank you first responder. I appreciate your support!

Wow...there are some very interesting responses here that sound a lot more like what I shared triggered you. Sorry for that.

I trust the therapists I've sought advice from over the years and my own siblings who share and also continue to struggle with this very difficult relationship/situation over your insistence that I'm the problem. Doesn't sound like you've experienced having a mentally ill parent who will not get treatment.

My mother blew up relationships with all her siblings and my father's siblings when we were teens. We lost all extended family bc they refused to deal with her behavior. When I maintained a relationship with my same age cousins or as an adult reconnected with my dad's brothers I was berated for being disloyal.

My mother told me on multiple occasions when I was pregnant I shouldn't bother having any children bc I didn't live nearby her.

I left my own family here for weeks on multiple occasions and lived/worked from their house when my Mom had a surgery, and again when my Dad had a stem cell transplant and two other hospitalizations. Driving her to appointments, cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning, stocking the fridge and freezer with premade meals before I left, keeping her company etc. I took all the abuse she dished out at me bc she was anxious or angry or frustrated and it makes her feel better to call her kids names and say hateful things. I handled it as best I could.

Those who know me know I've done a lot for my parents and most don't understand why I still do for all the things she's done to take her emotions out on me over the years.

I was just asking how others who might understand how they get through difficult times like this... If you don't understand, good, I'm glad you haven't dealt with this. I wouldn't wish this stuff on anyone.
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