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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm always suspicious when people post stuff like this and are vague.  Because it can often turn out that someone's complaining about extremely normal behavior. [/quote]

I’m the one who asked for examples, and yes. “[Person in my life] is self absorbed” without details usually means that the OP has unreasonable expectations of another person and has decided that anything short of meeting those expectations is self absorbed. I could be wrong here, but OP never came back so I’m probably not.[/quote]

OP here. Sorry for delay in response. A few examples...her grandmother is sick and just got out of hospital. AC and I talk about everything going on in AC life. I mention that I am taking grandma to this appt that appt or picking grandma up from rehabilitation etc. AC doesn't really respond or ask anything. AC is not interested.

AC frequently says what about me, say if we are on family vacations. We are planning on say going on an outing with her younger cousins. I realize outings with younger cousins are tedious for AC so I always say to AC if she wants to spend an afternoon doing her own thing, then that's totally understandable.  AC gets pouty and idoesnt like attention on others.

AC borrows my car for says on end andnis surprised when I'm asking about getting my car back.  AC borrowed car for a few days BC she had a service engine light on. I agreed to lend car for the week.  AC just doesn't get around to getting her own car into shop. Until I push BC it's been two weeks and I want my car back.

AC frequently occasionally says how much people love her at work. It is probably true. But I think she is insecure and seeking positive validation.

AC and I will talk and AC will spend 45 minutes discussing her day.  At the end of the call we hang up.  She rarely asks how I'm doing or how my day is.  It's all about AC.

AC is financially independent, oats her own rent phone insurance everything.  Welcome to the adult world.  AC complains about the cost of her phone plan...of course she has unlimited data. AC wants to get back on family plan from when we used to pay years back BC it's so much cheaper. Same with insurance for car. We don't entertain this idea.

I was having a bad week BC I had been sick and my mother had been unwell, her dad was out of town etc. I told AC that I couldn't talk much that week BC I was really tired and having a tough time with grandmother etc and I told her I was in a mood and it had nothing to do with her that it was just some things I was dealing with, combined with lack of sleep etc. I told AC we could connect say next week after dust settles m AC was offended and thought it was still about her.

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