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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dad is on his deathbed and we are visiting him regularly in hospice.

We did not have a great relationship as he has directed a lot of favoritism toward my sister and her children.

Still, he is my dad and I do love him.

When I said to him “I love you Dad” on a recent visit, he looked me straight in the eye and said “I love you” and then my sister’s name instead of mine.

My dad has been in and out mentally as he is bound to a hospital bed and recently went on morphine.

Was this a Freudian slip? It was triggering because I have always felt he loved my sister much more than me.[/quote]

What matters is that he heard that he was loved, not that you get "credit" for saying it.

If you have issues from your whole life with him, they won't get resolved now. Plan on therapy in your future to resolve the fallout. But don't put much stock on what he says or does right now. My sister-in-law's father called the adult children to his hospital bed in his final days to break the news that they were all Martians, having come from another planet. No joke, this happened. Drugs or dementia, but it actually lightened the moment for them.

You would not want to be judged on your final days, perhaps in pain or drugged up. Take the big picture of who he was and the life he lived.[/quote]

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