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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I know what you mean.

I am thinking of one friend I had for a long time who was like this. She was not socially successful in high school but managed to become more of a "popular" type in high school and beyond. Inside I think she was still insecure and gossiped quite a bit. I was her friend in high school and beyond.

I felt that way in groups around her. First, I think because I had been one of the nerds in high school with her, she didn't value me as much as her more "popular" type friends. I think maybe she was worried I wouldn't be cool enough in groups (I am perfectly socially ept but not super fashionable etc). I think she also took me for granted because we were such long standing friends, she prioritized her "cooler" friends when we were all out. I think I kind of was this reminder that she wasn't always cool. Something about being around her in a group left me feeling awkward even though I don't think I outwardly was.

Now, this could also be issues you have within you. Like, my older siblings were critical and exclusive towards me. So it was probably a mix of my own issues and my friend's behavior leading to my feelings.[/quote]

I think you nailed it, combination of this and that my parents and siblings were really critical and harsh about me so my neutral just tends to assume friends don’t like me. [/quote]

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