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[quote=Anonymous]Please give me your opinions.

Exh and I share 50/50 custody of 3 teens. Well, the oldest is 18 now so I guess 2 kids.

Background: Like many divorced families we deviated from the decree schedule quite a bit but generally maintain the 50/50 time with the kids being with me a bit more due to his work travel and long distance relationship. They are engaged now and she will be moving here (she's empty nest) so that's good. I am also in an LDR going on more than 3 years but we see each other less frequently because his job is less flexible and his kids are at home like mine. We generally have a good coparenting relationship.

Originally for his birthday my ds (turning 13) was going to have a slumber party at my house even though he is 'with' his dad that weekend. Our kids often do this so they can have the house without their brothers around. Exh was fine with this. Then ds asked to move the party to the next weekend so more people could come. Because of this it opened up that night for dinner. My bf and his kids are in town that weekend (we live in his hometown) so I asked exh if we could take all the kids to a fun place for dinner for a few hours. My kids and bf kids get along great - all teen boys, etc. They see each other once or twice a year due to distance but communicate on social media, etc. This is the only time during their visit that we can all get together.

Exh is being very resistant to the idea and now wants to take the kids to dinner with his dad instead and said I could come along. In the past we have done some bdays dinners like this all together so this is not unusual. However, in this case it is important to me that since there is an opening for my kids to spend time with bf kids I want to do dinner with them. It's not just dinner it's a fun place with a band and arcade, etc.

Legally I am entitled to 2 hours from 6-8 with my kid for his bday per the decree (this is usually standard in divorce.) I don't want to bring this up at all but it's in my back pocket. Would the shoe be on the other foot I would be absolutely supportive of exh and his fiance/stb wife taking the kids to dinner especially to do something fun. In some ways I would expect it.

How much do I push this? I feel like I am very supportive of exh and his relationship and being supportive of the kids with her, etc. But I don't want to cause ww2 but I don't want to be a pushover. FWIW BF of course wants to do this but also understands as a dad who shares custody that it can get tricky. My biggest issue here is that exh claimed he made dinner plans already but that would have been impossible bc there was a sleepover planned that night. [/quote]

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