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[quote=Anonymous]I don’t have older kids yet but here’s what I have to say. With my younger kids I learned that I was doing too much for them. I was resenting them for no good reason. Other than that I was doing too much. My therapist helped me see that I should not help them with the things they can do. Right? Like pulling on pants after going to the bathroom. That leaves the question what do they need me for? Even my big kids need me. They can feed themselves. But they need guidance. Support. Talking about the things that are ahead for them. It sounds like your girls do you need you for guidance and support. Help them when they ask for help. Help them know how to ask for direct help. Help them plan the next 5 years. Be a listener. Only you can identify what they need help with. As my therapist said, save your energy—don’t use energy on what they can do by themselves; save that energy for what they do need you for.[/quote]
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