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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Inlaws expect time in December and July, 5 families under one roof. One family stays at least a week each time.

I neither have that amount of vacation nor would I spend that amount of time with inlaws if I did. This year's July trip meant 5 days for us.  From the second we walked in there were questions about exact hour of our departure on final day, why we wouldn't push it later, did we have commitments that prevented us from staying the full time etc etc.

I get 13 vaca days a year, am spending 6 as is on these gatherings. How should I handle this guilt trip?[/quote]

People can expect whatever they want, and they can deal with their disappointment when they don't get it. That's their problem rather than mine. So I don't feel any guilt over something like that. Even when I get 30 days of vacation a year I still don't want to spend two weeks with my inlaws, because that's just not fun to me. So I don't. OP, just because someone tries to hand you something doesn't mean you have to take it.[/quote]

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