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[quote=Anonymous]We have lived in our neighborhood for over a year now and while it's nice, kids have made friends, I don't feel connected or close to anyone. We are not excluded, have a decent time at backyard parties and other social gatherings, I'm in book clubs, things like that. But I have noticed when we socialize that people don't ask me or DH questions at all. They happily gab on and on about themselves without reciprocating. DH golfs with a few men in the neighborhood and reports the same. Lots of talk about themselves, he asks a lot of questions to try to connect, but it's not returned. I definitely dig deeper so that conversations go beyond small talk with people, and I offer things up but always find the conversation steered back to the other person. I know a LOT about the other families in the neighborhood. Who doesn't like who, whose marriage is on the rocks, where they went to school, their jobs, etc. People tend to confide in me. But there's no way they know anything beyond the basics about me, despite my attempts to offer things up or engage in conversation about topics that might be more relevant to me (which I am starting to feel weird about!). I find it really off-putting and isolating. Our previous neighborhood was very transient so we didn't get to know many people. Among my other social groups - coworkers, childhood and college friends - I think I'm known as chatty and funny, and I have interests that other people seem to enjoy talking about with me, and I don't doubt that it's genuine. My role in this social circle is to fangirl over everyone else. It's shaken my confidence. I'm not exactly an extrovert, but I feel obligated to keep up connections for the sake of our young kids and, frankly, because we want to be a part of the community here. Anyone else experienced something similar? [/quote]

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