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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Saw a story years ago that always stuck in my head about a computer programmer who helped a homeless man learn how to program instead of giving him change to buy alcohol and the homeless man earned some money. It's fine if people don't want to help themselves out of poverty but why don't some attempt to help? My mom was a maid and my dad a waiter. We lived paycheck to paycheck because of their poor financial habits and dads secrets. I didn't even have my own bed to sleep in until age 14. My many cousins who had their own beds and rooms saw this and didn't attempt to help my mom or even me when I was older. I relied on comm college counselors advice and it wasnt any good. As a grownup I'm very blunt and direct with people and I try to help. I see someone that I see struggling and I immediately want to give advice. So why don't others? Why so mean?[/quote]

Kind hearted people get burned a lot and that is why they may not extend themselves. Sometimes people feel that because nobody helped them, they don’t need to help anyone. In my case, I choose to volunteer my time and resources in more constructive ways through more formalized programs/non profit organizations.

I grew up in a similar situation as you did. I had to work hard and figure things out on my own when no one offered to help. Despite this, many times I have helped less fortunate or poorer friends/family financially but the next step is getting people to change bad habits or do the necessary work/sacrifice to save or train for better positions. This is when the deeper problems get exposed. People say they will do xyz, but when the opportunity is presented they don’t want to do the hard work or find excuses. It is frustrating as someone who wants to help watch the self sabotage. Many times you get pulled into drama and stressful situations that can cause you to lose focus on what you need to do for yourself and family. Now, if I see someone willing to learn and do the work I will do my best to help them especially if they are willing to pay it forward. Many times it’s the selfish mindset that keeps people from helping each other (e.g. poor families working together to buy a house or send children to school). This seems to be what a lot of immigrant families do to build wealth. [/quote]

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