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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP. I am divorced with kids.  I also thought I wanted to be remarried for the reasons you cite.  I have been in a long term relationship with a fantastic man who also has kids. We don't live together.  While we do 'family things' all together, we maintain our own homes and care for our own families and make time for our relationship without the pressures of "family blending'. It's incredibly freeing to feel that connection but still be solo.  So yes, there is hope. You'll be ok alone. Remarriage is not the answer always.[/quote]

DP. But it's also ok to want to be in the same space, to have that family unit that was lost in the divorce. I do think blended families are a different situation, but I WANT to share a home with a new partner one day. [/quote]

You may want to share a home one day (as do I) but do my kids?  Is it fair to ask them to share a home with another family?   I am not saying that it's always wrong but in my situation, it would be disruptive to move schools just because I want to share a home with my romantic partner.  It's also incredibly freeing to be in a relationship that is not weighted down by the day to day mundanities of keeping a home with someone.  When we are together, we aren't talking about who is doing what for what kid and who is running what errand. I don't know, after a long marriage, I am enjoying being in a relationship where we can discuss our mutual interests etc and not just the day to day sh*t of running a family.  And don't get me wrong, we are very much enmeshed in one another's lives and support one another's kids in their endeavors. But we are two families units. It works and I am just here to say there is hope after divorce but it doesn't have to be 'remarriage'.[/quote]

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