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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you annoyed on the basic principle that he made plans directly with the kid?  Or does it conflict with other plans / violate some limitation on activities that you set for the child (e.g. something you would not consider safe, not something you want to child exposed to, etc)?  It sounds like your annoyance with your father from historical issues may be influencing your reaction here - try to look at this specific situation to see if it's really a problem, or if you're letting history cloud your perception.

If it's on principle: you need to accept that your dad does this.  Set clear boundaries for him: times that are available vs when you want the kid home, what activities are not authorized, etc.  Then give him some leeway to get creative within that.  Your only other option is to control all interactions - don't stay with him, don't let him communicate directly with your child.  Otherwise you are setting him up to fail, yourself up to be mad all of the time, and your child up for disappointment. [/quote]
I am annoyed at this particular action today because there were transportation logistics to his big plans that he never considered, leaving others to scramble to figure them out. I don’t want to go into the details.

I need to stop interacting with my parents. My mom is a total enabler. [/quote]

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