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[quote=Anonymous]An ultimatum at 3-4 months? That’s highly inappropriate and a major red flag. It’s a sign that he doesn’t respect your boundaries but if you’re actually considering his ultimatum in earnest then it’s possible that you don’t have great boundaries yourself and are vulnerable to being mistreated or overlooking red flags. As PP says, he doesn’t have the right to drive/control how or when he meets your kids, especially at 3-4 months, which is too early; it’s your decision as their parent and he needs to respect that. This is not someone who is going to be respectful, flexible understanding or attuned. I’m concerned that you left out the fact that you’ve only been with this guy 3-4 months in your original post; it’s a very significant fact. It means you’re awareness of and response to red flags is lower than it should be. My advice is in line with multiple PPs - this should be a dealbreaker for YOU. End it.[/quote]
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