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[quote=Anonymous]Is your husband pushing the kids to support Mom and do the things she likes? He should be helping to set the tone so the expectation isn't that the kids are catered to 24/7.

[quote] I find myself either going along with their stuff or we spend time apart with me doing my thing (e.g., eating alone in a restaurant) and then meeting up together, but they tend to complain if I’m not with them and it feels pointless.[/quote]

See, Dad should be saying, "Oh good, Mom had a fun meal all to herself!" It's the least he can do when vacations tend to favor his preferences.

If they're going to complain when you're not around, then institute a rule that everyone gets to pick one activity, one meal, etc. If they don't like the things you pick, then they'll quickly learn not to complain so much about doing things separately.

Really, you're doing the right things, and kids will be kids with self-centered viewpoints, but that doesn't mean you bend to them. Your DH needs to understand what's important to you and give up his view of a "perfect vacation" which is only possible if you morph into a totally different person. He didn't marry a pool lounger, and that needs to be OK.[/quote]

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