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[quote=Anonymous]how old are your kids, OP?  They sound younger than teenagers, but fyi, many families stop doing the family vacation when they have teens because it's just not fun.  (But it can be fun again when they are in college or yound adults)

I think many moms, in particular, are the unpaid coordinator of what everyone else wants to do.  So the rest of the family gets a vacation, but you get a trip.  A slog.  Another project to manage.

For me, when it's my whole family (4 of us) it was miserable because everyone wants to do something different and I can't bend in all directions at once.

This culminated in me having such a crappy time at a National Park in spring 2021 I decided no more family vacations.  I had almost passed out on a trail because 1) wrong trail--DH wouldn't listen, 2) Wrong time of day (noon, hot!), because DC1 held us up while primping for the trail, 3) Me going on the trail, because DC2 insisted I go because she "wanted all of us to go as a family."

I have discovered that I have a really good time when I'm with just ONE of them--doesn't matter which one.  I can bend to what they want, and they are a little more sensitive to what I want.  Think about it...if you are in the car with two kids, they are doing their thing and you are "mom."  They are fighting and you are mom, dealing with it, etc.  But if just one kid is in the car (especially in the front seat), you are still mom, but it's a different kind of conversation.  You're not referee or enforcer or placator or negotiator or  ____ etc.  It's a better bonding experience.

My DC1's first year of college was last year, and my most fun day was traveling alone to visit her, going a day early, and sleeping and eating by myself at the hotel while she finished her last final exam. (Then I had a great next day with her at brunch and driving around, then meeting her new friends for dinner.)  But that first day alone...

Sounds like that's what you need, OP.  A day alone.  And then just do something with each family member.  [/quote]

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