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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not your exact situation. Adopted child who spent years being so needy for me. Mental health issues arose. Lots of therapy and treatment - the kind that wipes out your bank account and you wonder if you will be able to make the next mortgage payment.

At some point I became the target. Violence. Hate. Viciousness. The emotional pain is real.

I came to a crossroads and needed to make a decision about whether I could continue. After much thought I decided I love my child and want more than anything for them to be successful. I am not convinced that we will have a significant relationship as time passes. But if we don’t, I don’t want it to be because I stopped being a mom and hardened my heart to avoid pain. It will have to be because they walk away. Sometimes it’s a struggle everyday not to feel hurt by the negativity and I remind myself that I can have no expectations. And I have to work to see the glimpses of positive or at least neutrality.

All this is to say, I get it to an extent. I have a very supportive spouse so I’m not alone and I have other kids with whom I’m really close and enjoy them every single day.

The only suggestion I have is this. Decide what you want. There are days that my answer is to be free but overall that’s not it. And once you decide, it it’s a relationship you want, work toward it but don’t expect much and protect your heart.

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