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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand your frustrations. The majority of my family is democratic of varying degrees and we recently got together for a funeral and one of the only Trumper-relatives waas there.

I said something to him like "I've seen your Facebook page and know your stance, and I'm sure you've seen mine. I'm happy we can get together and  have a nice lunch, and recognize the most important thing is that we love each other."  And we hugged, and it was beautiful. We probably both think the other is an idiot. [/quote]

NP. This is the civilized and kind way to behave. I'm  so glad your relative hugged and it was a positive interaction, PP.

To the OP, of course the thread already is devolving into insults between some posters. No one wants to read the vital part of your title: "I love my family." I suggest you use the PP's post above for adapting a script to use with your own family. And when you see them, I truly advise not merely hanging out, but having specific plans to do and see things so everyone's attention is on the farmer's market/museum exhibit/kids' recital/whatever, and no one is hanging out with the TV on in the next room spouting news either Foxy or liberal.

I do get your concern about your daughters. I've got a DD just out of teenhood myself. I can only say, talk with your kids about the fact one can love a person without having to like the person's views, and how it is NOT condoning a person's views if you have other, neutral interactions with them. If the person is abusive, toxic, rails, brings up these sensitive things every time you meet--yes, that's a sign it's time to back off. But if not? You can love without approving of views, meet and do things without discussing these topics, and love the person without condoning the politics or moral stances. I know this from a lot of experience.[/quote]

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