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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nope, but I’m busy living my life and not worrying what others who are observing it are thinking. [/quote]

This. Other people’s opinion means nothing to me. Not bothered in the least. 
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I don’t believe either of you.  [/quote]

So?  See above. Your opinion means nothing. You do you.

I will fully admit I judge other moms. But silently in my head. Because my opinion should have no bearing on them. [/quote]

DP and I believe you, but this is part of the problem for moms who do feel judged.

It's great that you feel confident and not judged. That's probably a byproduct of the way you were raised and maybe your natural disposition, and it's great because that's a much more comfortable way to go through life. But I would encourage you to no only keep your judgments to yourself, but learn to have them less. Because while you think you aren't expressing them, you actually still might be (most people do not have the poker face they think they do).

And you do this through empathy, which is good for you to practice anyway. If you find your first reaction to a mom doing something you wouldn't do is judgment, try instead thinking "Maybe she has a challenge that I don't understand." That's it. You don't have to get deep. Just consider that you might not have all the information and that her experience might differ from yours. Just try releasing her from her judgment, even in your own head. It will make you a better friend to other moms and will also be helpful to you if anything ever happens to you as a mom that does finally make you feel judged (you never know). Empathy is sort of magic.[/quote]

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