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[quote=Anonymous]I mean, her money is there for her to live off of so if she can afford to buy the house, which it sounds like she probably can between her savings, SS, pension, and retirement accounts, that's not a big issue. She can always resell the house if she needs to; even if she eventually ends up selling at a loss she'll have lots of equity in it.

I think points PPs have made about how she feels about it with regard to things like her doctors and friends are more important in this scenario. My aunt did this with my grandmother, and for the last 15 years of her life my grandmother ended up feeling lonely and annoyed because her social life - which had been really active in her hometown - dwindled to going to my aunt's church events and occasional visits from my cousins and their kids. She very much regretted letting my aunt pressure her into moving. And then my aunt passed away unexpectedly, so she was left mostly on her own anyway and had no local friends to come visit her. (My side of the family lived quite far away and my mom did ask if she wanted to move by her, but my grandmother thought moving again would just be even more hassle and didn't want to do it.) It was a total mistake and it sucked.

Since your mom will still be close enough to visit her doctors maybe it's not such a big deal, but especially as we get older having truly local and longstanding friends in our neighborhood makes such a big difference, I think. My grandmother lived til 95 and until the last year was entirely mobile. She could have stayed so happily in her own home with regular check-ups for so many more years than she did. My husband's grandmother also died at 95 and lived at home til the end in an apt where she had to walk up a flight of stairs. I think living there kept her both mentally and physically in good shape.

GL whatever you all decide. I agree your BIL is being really generous with his offer. You all are a nice family.[/quote]

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