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[quote=Anonymous]I am so tired of hearing my parents lecture us or make snide comments about how DH and I spend our money. Neither of my parents came from wealthy families but worked really hard to give us a good life, which they certainly did. But we lived pretty frugally and they still do to this day. I am not sure they have really enjoyed much of their hard earned money - they talk about traveling to see the world but don’t do it, and will often talk about things they want and can easily afford, but say they would never spend that much money on something frivolous. That’s fine, they can spend their money how they want and I don’t talk to them about it other than reminding them every once in a while that life is short and they are still in good health so to enjoy themselves a little.

The issue is that DH and I live “an over the top lifestyle” in their opinion and they think we are being reckless. We also both work very hard and make a very nice income. We are saving for college and our retirement, but also want to enjoy life now by traveling and giving our kids experiences, and we like having nice things. Our 2,500 square foot starter house was feeling a little small so we bought a bigger house last fall and my parents are embarrassed that we live in a palace (trust me, it’s far from a palace). We often invite them to join us for dinner out with the kids and they often decline saying spending money at restaurants is a waste. And they are livid at Christmas when they see us giving our kids multiple gifts they don’t need (in their opinion).

They are entitled to their opinion, but I am so tired of hearing their comments or unsolicited financial advice. I have told them many times that I don’t want to discuss finances and they can live however they want just like we can live how we want, but they just can’t help themselves. Anyone have luck getting their parents or family to let it go? I don’t think a day goes by that I don’t hear something about how we are spending money foolishly.
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