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[quote=Anonymous]If not a troll, it is bizarre to me that they've NEVER had a conversation about this. Like he graduated from college, got a job, moved back home (or reverse order there) and then entered a new phase where he just lives there in his childhood bedroom, all with no discussion of how long this arrangement might last or what plans he (or his parents!) might have in the near future.

I could see this maybe happening if he lived at home through college, but that's pretty rare these days. You see it with immigrant families where that's normal in home countries (and where doing so can make going to a 4 year college appealing, though many 4 year colleges won't even let you do this). So I just don't understand how he moves back in with his parents with no discussion about the future.

I guess Covid could have influenced this. But even then, there would be a conversation. Maybe the plan was a year or two but then Covid happened right as he would have been starting to move out and the timing didn't make sense. But again, you'd assume there would be conversations along the line of "I know I was originally going to get my own place this summer but would you mind if we postponed 6-12 months to see what happens with Covid/WFH/the housing market, etc.?"

I can easily imagine my DD living with us for years post-college graduation, as there are lots of good reasons for this and we get along well and honestly, I'd love the extra time with her. But I can't imagine going 4 years in that situation without having multiple conversations about the situation, how it's working, if it should keep going and for how long, and what the financial allocations are (not just rent, but stuff like contributing to bills, buying food, etc.).

I also wonder about socializing/dating. I can't imagine living with my parents at 26 because I was going out with friends a lot, dating a lot, and it would have been disruptive for both of us to try and make our lives work together.

Anyway, if this is a troll, they've successfully provoked me I guess. I'm not mad, just bewildered.[/quote]

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