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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is gainfully employed and does good work (apparently) based on his reviews, raises and what his co-workers say.  He thrives in immediate problem solving (meeting with customers to define solutions; product strategy meetings and coming up with solutions, etc.) but is terrible with completing any work he's responsible for.  He'll go to a product solution meeting and will convince everyone on the right solution.  Others will begin work on the details and DH will need to create a powerpoint or write a proposal.  [b]He will not get to it until about 10PM the night before its due, work until 2/3 AM and get it done in the nick of time.  ALL THE TIME![/b]

Same goes for work around the house.  His to-do list is a mile long and some items have been on it for years.  We plan a vacation months in advance and he'll book flight and hotel tix a couple of week before the vacation.

He claims that's how he was in HS and college as well, always studying at the last minute, running out of time with exams, etc. and it's not affected his life or success. DH is from another country where mental health issues are considered taboo so this was attributed to laziness which gets downplayed and his brilliance is what his parents focus on.

I'd ignore this and move on but for what I'm seeing with DS (who's in Middle school).  I've noticed similar tendencies with DS who in many ways takes after him.  It's worse with DS because he has no fear of failure.  Rather than push through and complete last minute, he's just give up and many times he won't turn in homework resulting in grades that are at least 2-3 levels below what they could have been.

Is my DH just lazy, a lucky procrastinator or does he have ADHD or other issues?  How do I find out?  Which doctor do I go to? Specific names would be helpful..  His primary care physician doesn't think there's a problem but it's not like he did an assessment.  [/quote]

I am sure he is hated by his coworkers and manager. That last min sh*t is for HS/college, not professional settings because you all have to work together. [/quote]

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