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[quote=Anonymous]  I have posted before. Mom refuses to move to residential and I am not POA. Sibling with POA is not in area and lives in denial. Mom has stopped asking neighbors for favors, but her new hobby is sending them angry emails. (She was the one years ago who thought it was a good idea to have a neighborhood email and phone list). My number has been passed around by the neighbors who have it for emergency contact. I refuse to gaslight anyone and my mom is pretty awful to me, so empathize a lot. I also feel like I have to respect her right to medical privacy, though to be honest, I think a lot is hidden from me. I think she told the case manager not to tell me much because she was so livid I made her hire one.

So this is how I handle it and I would like to know what others do. I apologized and said I wish she had not done that. I said she has a lot of hostility toward me and I got many angry texts, emails and calls and stopped responding to anything that was hostile.I said I will share this info with her doctors. I said I understand completely if they decide to block her emails. I said that while I think she would be happier in a retirement setting with peers and more social activities, that is not her wish and I have no sway with her. I let my sibling know the situation and she just said that it's not a big deal and they should just ignore it if they don't like it. She paid for her house and isn't harming them.

I am the one who posted wondering if she has either the frontal lobe form of Alzeheimer's or FTL Dementia-behavioral variant since she passes the dementia screen. If she had an actual diagnosis I would get her permission to share this is the disease talking. The thing is she always had this streak, she just was more receptive to hearing from people that she cannot behave that way.

How do you all handle complaints from neighbors?[/quote]

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