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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like they may have been dealing with secondary infertility and couldn't handle your pregnancy with DC2. Doesn't excuse their reaction, but may explain it. [/quote]

+1. You have no idea what was going on. I don’t see why you would want to do something to her that you felt was rude and hurtful?[/quote]

Because I'm still hurt that they were so obvious about not GAF. Even if you are upset at experiencing secondary infertility, when you know that in a PP's words "someone gestating your nice/nephew and your child's cousin" is in the hospital at 30 weeks because of unexplained bleeding, how hard is it to send a text saying "I hope you feel better." But they weren't able to do that and then they weren't able to say congrats after DC2 was born. Ever. But what bothers me beyond the hurt is the lack of self-reflection. It feels hypocritical for them to have completely ignored the pregnancy/birth of my DC2 and then to have a weekly text update about their DC2. And they still seem to be mad at us for having a DC2, [b]because they hearted the "congrats" text responses from all of the family members except for me and DH.[/b] I don't even know why we're on their text thread, since they seem mad at us for responding.[/quote]

I'm the PP who said you should give her some grace.  If you're texting back "congrats" then you're doing enough, and their weird response to that is not on you.  Try not to let her get under your skin, and don't waste time wondering what her problem is.  You're already the bigger person at this point, just do the bare minimum of "congrats" and "how nice" until the baby is here.  [/quote]

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