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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just tell your son not to throw the equipment, and next time anticipate it before it happens. No biggie.[/quote]

We tell him not to throw all the time!! OP here.  And I’m the only parent in this class involved and not sitting on the sidelines and I still couldn’t catch the toys before they were thrown. [/quote]
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BUT WHAT DO YOU TELL HIM HE CAN DO!!!!!?[/u]

You need to learn to redirect behaviors from inappropriate to appropriate. Telling him over and over that he cant throw is dumb. He knows he cant throw, he doesnt care because he has no impulse control and the pathway for when he feels frustrated or angry is I feel this= I react by throwing. You MUST be able to connect the emotion to a new appropriate action. You cannot throw, you can stomp your feet. REPEAT REPEAT REPEAT. Show him, read about these emotions and then ask and what do we do if we get upset? stomp our feet/count to 3/etc. Most importantly dialogue when you feel angry or frustrated and what you are doing. Ex. Argh I am so frustrated right now! I need to take a big breath and count to 3.

Physical reactions to emotions are okay at this age. You need to direct the physical manifestation of the emotion to appropriate, non-aggressive towards others behaviors. As they get older you can work on concepts like taking a breath, walking away, needing space, working through the emotion and being able to calm down OR recognize whether it is something you want to address and if not, letting it go. [/quote]

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