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[quote=Anonymous]It depends on the party. If smallish and mostly close friends who know the kid and family fairly well, I actually prefer a gift party because I feel weird showing up to a party empty handed and I usually know the kid well enough to buy something appropriate and am happy to do so.

If a large party where a child's whole class and lots of neighbor friends are invited, I think no gifts is better because unless I am one of the people close to your family, I will probably struggle a bit to figure out something appropriate to buy and then feel self-conscious about it in front of such a big group of people.

Also, this will be unpopular on DCUM but I think family circumstances matter. If a family is wealthy and doesn't say no gifts, I will admit I sometimes judge because I think it creates pressure to buy expensive gifts, and the kid might be dismissive of something more modest... it just sets people up for more stress and the child really doesn't need the additional gifts. But if a family is middle or working class and says no gifts, I don't judge because I think all kids deserve to feel special on their birthdays and that family might be limited in what they can provide -- the party gifts will help that kid feel really loved and special and that's great.[/quote]

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