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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She was there to help care for HER SON, not to be your babysitter, nanny, maid, grocery shopper, etc. Why do you think she should have been waiting on you? You have two nannies, your family, and you sound like an entitled spoiled brat who should never have had children because, obviously, you can't take care of them. Thank goodness your DH had his mother to help care for him because you would have left him to fend for himself and probably complained that he didn't change diapers.[/quote] What was that all about, PP? I actually think this merits a serious response, because I've found that one of the many alienating things about struggling to carry out responsibilities while working around a BPD person in your home (especially in a crisis) is that they can find a kernel of truth around which to twist the blame dumping and histrionics. BPD people can be good at demonizing their targets... and isolating them from other people's support. Given my own experience living with a BPD, I recognize OP's complaints about a family member who provides ineffective and even comically exaggerated "look at me being a saint-- not like her with her two nannies and her job" support without actually helping-- and even worse expecting to be coddled in a larger crisis. [/quote]
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