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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's nuts. You're not quite innocent yourself. Read your OP and tell me you don't drip of condescension toward her. You think she's beneath you.

I'm guessing your judgment of her comes through in your interactions. She's probably already insecure, in herself or her marriage. Knowing that you have a close bond with her H's previous girlfriend and contrast that with your attitude toward her, it feeds her insecurity.

What she's asking (and what your brother is asking) is unreasonable. You could do some introspection, though. How does she even know of your friendship with his ex? Do you flaunt it?

What would I do? I'd tell brother we're all adults and my friendship has no bearing on anyone else. I'd continue to be polite, but also kind, to her. I'd try to find some common area of interest. The rest of out of my control.  [/quote]

OP. Yes, I think we are different. We do not have any common interests. She only talks about kids and housekeeping. I can sustain these conversations for so long. Do you suggest I fake it?  I don't think she is a mean person, or a dumb one. We don't have to be friends; I certainly don't want to push myself to be friends with [b]someone I have almost  nothing in common[/b].

As far as my friendship with his ex, she sees pictures on Instagram. SIL actually follows exgf even though she never met her face to face.[/quote]

Are your primary personality traits that you like international travel and you have a job?  Is there anything else about you that may be interesting?  Have you asked her about her own interests?  Her childhood?  What TV/books she likes?  Her favorite food and what silly pet peeves she might have?

Look, she is wrong to be judging your friendship with this xGF, Full stop.

But since you introduced all of the ways you are different, I'll offer some unsolicited advice- you can sustain relationships with people that are different than you, and certianly long conversations with them.  It actually makes life more interesting.  You can share about yourself and ask questions of them.[/quote]

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