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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is mental illness. Most people DO use their things. May she Rest In Peace, and sorry for your loss.[/quote]

I don't think it's mental illness for all.

My parents are like this. Both were born into poverty and grew up poor.

My dad bought my mom a beautiful ring for their 40th wedding anniversary to replace her Montgomery Ward engagement ring and wedding band. She only wears it on special occasions because she doesn't want to "mess it up". She would never, ever buy herself an expensive purse so my sister and I buy those for her. Again, she only uses them on special occasions so as not to mess them up. Her "expensive" perfume is not for daily use. She has a cheap-o Walmart perfume or body spray for that purpose.

I think it really goes back to being poor because as a kid she had 1 nice dress that was worn weekly for church and then on any special occasions. Her mother had makeup that she only wore for special occasions and perfume as well.

My dad is less prone to having "special occasion only" items because he simply doesn't buy much. He buys what he needs and that's it. But once he buys an item, he's going to use the crap out of it until it's falling apart and probably held together with some duct tape and super glue.

Last time my parents came over, my mom couldn't believe we were making mimosas "with the good stuff" instead of some cheap champagne. "You shouldn't waste that on a regular Sunday brunch. You should save that for a special occasion!" she said, sigh. A work in progress. [/quote]

OP's post was like a jolt for me. I don't think this is just growing up poor. It has to be both mental illness and something else. I grew up upper middle class and my dad used to get us all the latest toys then. I don't know why, but I don't let my kids wear their special dresses often - looking back, there were so many cute things kids could have worn but I saved them for special occasions which never happened and then they didn't fit my kids. The latest is a cute gymboree dress that I paid quite a bit for in 2020 - saved them for a photoshoot which we never took during covid and now it is just about right fit (wouldn't last another season), yet I am not giving it to them to wear to school and saving it for that "photo shoot" which we have not booked yet. There were so many occasions between last June and now when they could have worn those dresses. They wear clearance clothes I spent $5 on all the time.[/quote]

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